“She was afraid that their 20 year marriage and family was hanging by a thread. They scoured the internet for help and found me!”

Last weekend, I designed a custom Tantric weekend for a married couple who were ready to enhance their sex life.
They live in Nashville and met at a Christian University in Texas, where they were studying to be pastors. Her husband had given her an ultimatum: they had to do something about their sex life, or he wanted an open marriage!
They have three children, one of whom has special needs, and the man has since left the clergy and ventured into sales.
The woman, who was still Christian, had read a book on the Christian purity movement and had decided she was sexually shut down as a result of growing up in that environment.
She explained that in that movement, women are taught to think of themselves as "used trash" if they have any sexual experience.
She had always been a devoted Christian and wife, having been with only her husband. However, the conditioning from the purity movement, along with the stress of raising three children, one of whom has Down syndrome, had taken its toll on her sex drive and marriage.
He initially hesitated to see a therapist, but what I offered was much more engaging than typical talk therapy. After a lengthy discussion over Zoom with the three of us, he agreed. She was certain that they had found the help they needed and proceeded to arrange childcare for Friday and Saturday evenings. They also reserved a nice hotel suite in downtown Asheville. It was something worth splurging on.
We all met at Posana on Friday evening, which had recently reopened for dining. They shared their personal histories and hopes for the weekend and the future. I assured her that embracing spiritual sexuality and becoming a sensually awakened goddess would come naturally, despite the sexual shame, guilt, and blocks she wished to overcome.
After all, it is her true nature. I shared with them my own experience growing up in a repressive religious environment and how my journey with tantra had been crucial to my healing and awakening. I had also delved into teaching tantra, drawing from my background in tantra yoga, and furthered my knowledge through the study of body-based therapy, ultimately earning my graduate degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.
She was just beginning a yoga teacher training that she was enthusiastic about, and we both agreed it was the perfect time for her to study with me, even though they both lamented that they hadn't discovered this path sooner. I mentioned that I consider myself a Christian Mystic, practicing Christianity as well as Buddhism and Tantra. I shared that I'd heard pastors say that God is much bigger than any of us realize, which seemed to comfort them on their exploration journey.
That evening and the following day, I coached them extensively, guiding them through rituals and practices to awaken their senses, sensual meditation, and how to work with their own and their partner's sexual energy. We also focused on following the thread of pleasure to rewire their nervous systems, releasing old, stuck negative energy and trauma to open up to more embodied ecstasy and joy.
It was playful and enjoyable, and they ventured to the edges of their comfort zones in a safe and conscious manner. I taught him practices for full-body sensual and ecstatic healing, as well as yoni massage for her and vice versa.
She experienced a full-body orgasm and multiple orgasms for the first time in her life. Afterward, she cried and expressed her desire for her children to experience this as well. She was grateful that she had finally been able to release the shame and guilt, ensuring it wouldn't be passed on to her children.
As we concluded the retreat on Saturday evening, she mentioned that she had felt comfortable with me throughout the entire experience, and there had been just the right amount of challenge. He thanked me profusely, stating he had never seen his wife enjoy herself so much.
I assigned them tasks to continue their journey towards becoming a liberated, multi-orgasmic couple. I recently checked in with them, and it seems he has decided there is much more to learn about his wife's pleasure and their journey together, so he canceled the appointment he had made with an escort. She mentioned, "We've been doing really great! He has been practicing his new techniques on me in the short time we have after the kids are in bed, and it's been wonderful! We are planning another extended session for me tomorrow and for him on Saturday evening.
I'm working on practicing the "Come To Your Senses Practice" and guiding him through full-body relaxation with visualization and touch... Just yesterday, I told him that I didn't know I could feel this good! I'm so grateful for the time with you and the lessons we have taken home!"
I love working with both men and women, and I know that I'm especially gifted in helping women shed thousands of years of sexual repression to find their authentic sensual selves and embrace their birthright of pleasure, ecstasy, and being an embodied sensual goddess. This way, they can have the best sex, relationship, and love of their lives!
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