Hormones of Love

Ever wonder why men and women respond to sex and love differently? 

Women get 30 times more oxytocin from sex than men get! 

Oxytocin is the hormone of love and bonding that makes one identify with others. I call it the give away the farm hormone! It's what creates family and community. 

Women receive 300 times more oxytocin from giving birth than from having sex. 

While women bond more from oxytocin, men have more vasopressin, the hormone of monogamy and territoriality. Some men naturally have more than others. Men inherit the amount from their fathers. 

Both men and women get flooded with dopamine in the first few years of new love. 

Dopamine is the love drug of excitement and romantic obsession and it mostly goes away after a few years. After that we have to consciously bring excitement and newness into our relationship to get more dopamine. 

People often think they have fallen out of love at this point in a relationship or they blame the loss of sex and feeling in love on having a baby when it's just biology. Men also have way more testosterone than women and women have a finite amount while men’s bodies make much more. 

This often results in health issues for women living in a testosterone driven society since women’s adrenals get depleted when they run out of testosterone. 

Also testosterone makes men physically stronger, have more stamina and be more positive, optimistic and emotionally stable. 

On the down side, men are more likely to overestimate their abilities and take risks that get them killed. Women have the benefit of their entire cycle of ups and downs to more realistically assess situations and are less likely to take unnecessary risks or make stupid decisions. 

Less testosterone also makes us more talkative and social as women. 

I believe the key to mastery with the hormones of love and sex is to learn how to consciously work with the sexual and romantic energy for more sustainability and happiness. 

That is what I teach.

I offer a free Video Masterclass “The Art of Love: Chemistry, Attachment and Trauma”

It's here.